Oct. 6: NARM and the fear-shame downward spiral

Click on the image to the left to register to join Martin and other Integral Relationship explorers for Session #7 of 12 practice Sessions.
View catch-up videos of previous Practice Sessions here.

Sunday, October 6
4:00 PM UTC (18:00 CEST, 9:00 AM PDT).
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Arrive up to 15 Minutes before we start for check-in and warm-up questions.

We will integrate exercises from Martin's new book Integral Relationship Practice (also available as audible version) and the upcoming Integral Relationship Online Training #8, from Nov. 10, 2024 to May 18, 2025 with the NeuroAffective [sic] Relational Model (NARM) and their new book The Practical Guide For Healing Developmental Trauma, by Laurence Heller and Brad J. Kammer:

Topics:
- Understand what causes fear and shame in males and females.
- Realize what causes the fear-shame downward spiral.
- How does the fear-shame downward spiral relate to the five NARM adaptive survival styles?
- Learn how to avoid going down the fear-shame downward spiral.
- Practice how to return to connection, attunement, trust, autonomy, and love/sexuality if you and your partner went down the fear-shame downward spiral.

View catch-up videos of the previous five Sessions here.

NARM is the perfect complement to Martin's work, as it supports us in healing past complex developmental trauma that often prevents us from co-creating healthy Integral Love Relationships.
NARM®, the "NeuroAffective Relational Method" for Healing Developmental Trauma is the perfect complement for the Integral (Relationship) Model.

Key aspects of NARM include:
1. Mindfulness-based approach: Emphasizes being present and aware of one's thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations.
2. Relational focus: Recognizes the importance of interpersonal relationships in healing trauma.
3. Integration of body and mind: Addresses both the psychological and physiological aspects of trauma.
4. Developmentally-oriented: Explores how early childhood experiences can impact adult functioning.

Key aspects of the Integral Relationship Model include:
1. Learning all relationship skills available to us today.
2. Healing our relationship wounds in relationships.
3. Growing in consciousness and co-creating with an equal partner along the seven chakras.
4. Awakening to our true nature and full human potential to make the world a better place.

NARM has five organizing developmental themes that Martin already integrated into his new book Integral Relationship Practice:
1. Connection: We feel that we belong in the world. We are in touch with our body and our emotions and capable of consistent connection with others.
2. Attunement: Our ability to know what we need and to recognize, reach out for, and take in the abundance that life offers.
3. Trust: We have an inherent trust in ourselves and others. We feel safe enough to allow a healthy interdependence with others.
4. Autonomy: We are able to say no and set limits with others. We speak our mind without guilt or fear.
5. Love-Sexuality: Our heart is open and we are able to integrate a loving relationship with a vital sexuality.

To the degree that these five basic needs are met, we experience harmony in our love relationships.
To the degree that these basic needs are not met, we develop shame and pride based survival styles to try to manage the disconnection and dysregulation.

We will explore how these five pride and shame based survival styles and the NARM Healing cycle fit into the 14 Essential Dimensions of the Integral Relationship Model in our 12 practice events from Sunday August 18. to November 3. 2024.

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