NARM® Trauma-Informed Integral Relationship Training, Istanbul, May 2023

May. 16/17-21, 2023
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Gather, connect, learn, practice, and relax with other Integral Relationship Explorers 

Watch above Angelina Munaretto (Social Entrepreneur and Ret. Government Exec.), Dr. Wayne Carr (Licensed Psychologist) and Kirsten Kristensen (CNVC Certified Trainer, Coach, Mediator) sharing their experiences about the Workshop Gathering, 2021 in Agva/Istanbul.

Join our 5-day International NARM® -Trauma-Informed Integral Relationship Professional Certified Training from Tuesday evening, May 16 (or Wednesday morning) through Sunday evening, May 21, 2023, at our Integral Center in the heart of Istanbul.
Accomodation/breakfast at Molton Monopart Hotel within 3 minutes walking distance of our center.

Integral Center workshop room for up to 20 people (when seated in circle).

Catered lunch and dinner at the Integral Center roof terrace.

Previous Ağva Integral Relationship Training, September 2021

Immerse yourself in a five-day in-person training workshop retreat
with Integral Relationship Author and Facilitator Martin Ucik and special guest Integral Consciousness Mentor and Enneagram Master Dr. Khaled ElSerbini.

Learn, practice, and fully understand how to embody, apply, live, share and, if you choose so, teach the cutting edge (r)evolutionary 26 Integral Relationship Modules, including how the NARM® complex developmental trauma related shame-based ego identifications and pride-based counter identifications integrate with the 26 modules, to co-create healthy, sustainable, romantic love relationships between equal and opposite partners of any sexual orientation who heal, learn, grow and awaken together to share their biological, transformational, and transcendental purpose that makes the world a better place.

At the end of the 5-day training, you will receive a diploma as "Certified Integral Relationship Professional”.

Register today. Do not delay and avoid being placed on the waiting list as space is limited to 16 participants.

The entire workshop gathering will be experiential with many individual, paired, and group exercises. We will also offer optional morning practices such as Yoga and Meditation, and evening intensives with Dr. Khaled ElSherbini. Please let us know if you want to offer a morning practice.

The Workshop: 


The entire workshop gathering will be experiential with many individual, paired, and group exercises. We will also offer optional morning practices such as Yoga and Meditation, and evening intensives. Please let us know if you want to offer a morning practice.

Workshop Details:


Arrival Day, Tuesday, May 16, 8:30 PM 

Evening Intensive - Setting Intentions and Introduction to NARM Healing Developmental Trauma with Martin. 

Join us for dinner at Big Chefs at Trump Towers (5 Minutes from Integral Center/Hotel), followed by an evening of sharing and an introduction to the NeuroAffective Relational Method/Model (NARM®) which we will use throughout the workshop to deepen our experience in each of the 26 Modules (see list here.)


Day 1, Wednesday, May 17

7:30 - 8:30 Optional Morning Practice


Wednesday - Sunday morning practices:

For people who like to start their day early with a morning practice, we will have yoga, meditation, etc., offered by workshop participants from 7:30 - 8:30 before breakfast.





Workshop: Love Is Unconditional, Relationships Are Not

How is it that we can feel unconditional love towards all people and creation, and may experience a unique irresistible sexual attraction, deep heart and emotional resonance, and divine soul connection towards another human being, and yet often find sustaining a healthy love relationship in a lived day-to-day reality arduous?

On this first day of our workshop, we will explore why love is unconditional and relationships are not by putting the material, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual dimension of romantic relating into a developmental cultural, and social context.

We will also learn that most adults continue to evolve in consciousness after adolescence, but that few understand how this growth impacts our lives -- and love relationships in particular. Together, we will explore eight stages of consciousness development in a relational context.

This knowledge and experience will allow you to identify your own and the level of development of others to understand conflicts that arise between couples, and groups with differing world-views, values, and meaning-making structures, and how they communicate their needs and attempt to resolve conflicts differently in the four dimensions of their being.

Detailed description.


Optional Evening Intensive:

Stages of the Heart with Dr. Khaled ElShirbini


Day 2 - Thursday, May 18

Optional Morning Practice


Workshop: Ending The Confusion Between Sex, Gender, and Feminine/Masculine Polarities

Why do we still talk about gender wars and often see our relationships deteriorate from love to outright hostility? How do we create lasting sexual attraction and synergy in our love relationships?

On this highly experiential and practical second day, you will learn to understand biological differences and learned gender roles between the sexes, and how to prevent your relationships from going down the fear-shame spiral (or returning to love and romance). You will also experience feminine and masculine polarities in an embodied way, and how to balance and harmonize their healthy expressions in thriving love relationships.
This knowledge and experience will allow you to understand and make peace with yourself and the opposite sex to co-create happy love relationships.

 Detailed description.


Optional Evening Intensive:

The Enneagram in Relationships with Dr. Khaled and his wife Nataliia Bolshakova


Day 3 - Friday, May 19

Optional Morning Practice


Workshop: Spirituality – Sexuality - Complexes - Types

What is happening on a spiritual, sexual, and psychological level when we deeply resonate with another human being and how can this resonance be created and deepened?

On this third day, we will go for a deep dive into various forms and depths of spiritual experiences, leading us to non-duality, a state/stage that cannot be talked about but only pointed to. This will be followed by a “Tantric” exploration of the connection between psychology, spirituality and sexuality, and how repressed male and female qualities create complexes that make the opposite sex attractive and challenging at the same time. The day will close with an eye-opening exercise on how our Love Languages and Enneagram Types including three Instincts impact our love relationships.

This knowledge and experience will allow you to take your spirituality, sexuality, and soul-connection to the next level of possibility and to give and receive love in ways that are deeply satisfying.

Detailed description.

Optional Evening Intensive:

The Enneagram Compatibilities with Dr. Khaled


Day 4 - Saturday, May 20

Optional Morning Practice


Workshop: Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships

How is it possible that we are consciously evolved and spiritually awake and still get triggered into devastating fight-flight-freeze reactions, especially in intimate love relationships? Of course, it is because of our unconscious -- but how to deal with it? On this “magical” day, we will learn about five forms of the unconscious and practice a simple, yet powerful and life-changing process how you and your partner can welcome emotional triggers to heal your unconscious and childhood attachment wounds in ways that allow you to move towards undefended love by using affirmations, mindfulness, and coherent narratives. We will also learn how to avoid the 22 stages of the decline of relationships between highly evolved empaths and people with personality disorders.

Detailed description.


Optional Evening Intensive:

Connecting through the Sufi Heart with Dr. Khaled


Day 5 - Sunday, May 21

Optional Morning Practice


Workshop: Awaken to your Life’s Purpose and Share it With a Partner

Why can we be integrally informed and do all the learning, healing, growing, and awakening work, and still often can’t find a compatible partner or sustain a healthy love relationship?

On this final day we will get the answer by exploring that we humans have a Biological Purpose (to survive, procreate, form groups, and seek a quality of life), a Transformational Purpose (to learn, heal, grow, and awaken), and a Transcendental Purpose (to create more Goodness, Truth, Beauty, and Functionality) that unfold in unique ways based on our genetic predisposition and phenotypes. We will explore four different discovery methods of our purpose, different levels of depth, impact, and stages of expression, and the resulting forms of our capacity to love which will lead us to identify and co-create along the seven chakras with our uniquely compatible soulmate to make the world a better place.

Detailed description.



Dinner at Trattoria Carbonara, Martin's favorite Italian Restaurant in Istanbul (included in workshop price.)
(We will eat at a Traditional Turkish Restaurant on Monday, and rooftop restaurants on Tuesday) 



Workshop costs:

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Have you signed up already? Please, check the important information here.

Questions & Answers

What do I need to know before coming to Turkey?

Americans and other non-European nationals need to get a visa online at for USD 78.50 to USD 61.50 (suggested) or after arriving at the airport at a kiosk (more expensive and time-consuming). European nationals don't need a visa (check

Is it safe to gather because of Covid?

Turkey reports zero infections and deaths over the past few months
We request that all participants test themsleves with COVID test kids that we will provide before the workshop so that we can all feel safe.
Read useful information about Covid in Turkey at COVID-19 Information | U.S. Embassy & Consulates in Turkey.

Travel arrangemIs and safety?

Istanbul is a tourist town and generally very safe, in case you decide to stay here a few extra days for sight-seeing.
There are many affordable direct flights to the Istanbul (IST) and Sabiha Gokcen Airports International (SAW) Airports.
We will arrange transportation from the Airport to Integral Center or the Molton Hotel on May 16. and back to the Airport after your visit.    


What will the weather be like in Istanbul?

Average Weather During May In Istanbul

You can expect very pleasant temperatures during the day in May. The average maximum daytime temperature in Istanbul in May lies at 20.0°C (68°F). The average minimum temperature goes down to around 12.0°C (53.6°F) (often the minimum temperature is noted at night).

Rainfall during May is moderate with an average of 30mm (1.2 inches). This makes it the driest month of the year. There are generally around 8 rainy days. If you enjoy blue skies and sunshine, then this is a great time to go to Istanbul with 247 hours of sun during the entire month.

So what to wear in May? For visitors traveling to Istanbul we recommend wearing layers. So maybe a skirt, t-shirt, shorts for during the day and jeans and a warm jacket for some days and evenings. At night it tends to cool off so best to pack some warm nightwear as well. With a water temperature of around 16.0°C (60.8°F), there is no need to bring your swimwear.

Will the workshop be gender balanced?

Yes, we will attempt to have the same amount of men and women in the workshop by having a wait list once we have 10 registrations for each gender. So register now to avoid being put on the wait list or sign up with a partner/friend of the opposite sex to secure your space.

Is there WiFi at Integral Center

Yes, there is fast Wi-Fi throughout Integral Center. 

Who helps me with hotel staff or in case of an emergency?

We will have local Turkish staff members who speak English very well, and a car to help you with any emergency that you may have during the workshop. 

Hotels and Sight-Seeing

We are offering a free 2-day sightseeing tour around Istanbul with Martin on Monday and Tuesday after the workshop
You can arrange your own AirBnB or Hotel for your extended stay. If you want to stay near Integral Center we suggest three Hotels for you to book: Molton Monapart Mecidiyekoy Hotel (3 walking minutes approx. $65 per night), Milord Hotel (8 walking minutes approx. $135 per night), or DoubleTree by Hilton (10 walking minutes approx. $170 per night.)

I want to continue my holiday in Turkey, where should I go and what should I visit?

If you want to stay in a resort area with a beach, turquoise sea and take occasional tours to the ancient places, you can consider the Mediterranean part of Turkey. The most popular destinations are Kuşadası, Bodrum, Marmaris, Fethiye (a destination with wonderful nature), Antalya, and Alanya. Around these areas, you can visit historical places such as Ephesus, Aspendos, Pamukkale, and much more. Inland you may consider Kapadokya, Göbeklitepe and Konya.

You can also travel to the Black sea region to enjoy nature, forests, and the hospitality of local people. You might be interested in visiting Trabzon, Sumela Monastery (Monastery of the Virgin Mary), Karaca Cave, and many other attractions.

If I come with the kids, is it possible to arrange a babysitter?

If you want to travel with kids, please, contact us: [email protected] for more details no later than one and a half month prior.

Can I arrive a day (or more) early?

Yes of course. You can take a Taxi for about $30 from IST or $50 from SAW Airpotrs. There are also convenient Havaist Buses from Istanbul (IST) and Sabiha (SAW) Airport into Istanbul that leave about every 50 Minutes for 74 TL ($4). Exit at the first (4. Levent) stop from IST and take a taxi (50 TL $3) to Integral Center or Molton hotel. If you take a Taxi, insist to pay by the meter in the mirror for the Taxi. Don't accept a flat price.
You can also use the metro lines from IST. From İstanbul airport (via E) you can take metro line M11 and get off in Kağıthane. After that change from metro line M11 to metro line M7 in Kağıthane to Sisli Mecidiyeköy station, which is 3 Minutes from Integral Center. Let us know if you arrive at SAW and want to take the Metro. 
Let us know if you need more detailed information how to get here.

You can arrange your own AirBnB or Hotel. If you want to stay near the Integral Center we suggest three Hotels for you to book: Molton Monapart Mecidiyekoy Hotel (3 walking minutes approx. $65 per night ... we can also book for you at a better rate), Milord Hotel (8 walking minutes approx. $135 per night), or DoubleTree by Hilton (10 walking minutes approx. $170 per night.)