I am very honored that world-renowned artists Alex and Allyson Grey invited me to contribute an article about the Dialectic of Love to their COSM Journal of Visionary Culture #10 about LOVE. You can order your copy...

Man: I now realize that I stopped being romantic when I no longer ………. instead of showing my love and care for you by ….. (think of love languages). I am very sorry and feel ….. when this confused, disappointed and scared you. Going forward I will ….. (think about her...

I am very honored that world-renowned artists Alex and Allyson Grey invited me to contribute an article about the Dialectic of Love to their COSM Journal of Visionary Culture #10 about LOVE. You can order your copy...

Here is the link to the slides of our conversation: https://integralrelationship.com/wp-content/uploads/Dr_Bert_Parlee_RELATIONSHIPS_May_2018.pdf. The Brene Brown video that Bert wanted to share is at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2LXnTQh-3s Below is an image...

Communication from our Aware & Healed Self As we see in the image above, men and women at different levels of consciousness use different ways of communicating to find consensus or agreement (encapsulated in the wonderful German word Verständigung, which means to...

How Integral Psychotherapy addresses spiritual bypassing, attachment styles, personality disorders, and shadow issues in love relationships. Integral men are often attracted to women with complex personalities. We find them interesting and fascinating, as they usually...

Click here to download the Power Point Show. Watch the Video at https://youtu.be/bECj_5POLX0 Anodea Judith's comprehensive work about the seven chakras provided much of the wisdom and foundation for developing the Integral Love Relationship model in Part III of my new...

Michaela Böhm worked with David Deida for 13 years and is one of the most gifted and in-demand relationship teachers, speakers, and counselors to be found globally today. Watch the episode on the Integral Love Relationship YouTube Channel...

In an Integral Love Relationship, (1) equal and opposite partners with a (2) shared Biological and Transcendental Purpose and the (3) same rights and responsibilities in the domestic and public sphere love each other, and even more so that which is uniquely co-created...

Watch the Video at https://youtu.be/9TbH90IFX7A and download the Power Point here. Watch all ILR Web Jams at www.youtube.com/channel/UCsZbcLqZXmhqjKA1Rf-vqyg When we start living our Transcendental Purpose (TP) we will naturally feel attracted to, and attract people...

There are four different methods that have been identified by purpose guides to discovering our natural talents and resulting Transcendental Purpose. Download a Power Point Presentation here and watch the Video on the IR YouTube Channel We call these four methods (1)...

Watch the video of this Web Jam at https://youtu.be/d-A9GrH6KuY After all the theory and "mansplaining" during our first four web jams (see videos here), I had a conversation with Authors Maria Appelqvist and Belinda Busteed Burum about what makes love work, and why...

Watch the edited video Why Shared Purpose is the Future of Love and a Better World at https://youtu.be/8BC7WximNrE and download the Power Point Presentation here. Similar to being in a healthy sustainable love relationship, living on purpose has many health benefits...

Watch the conversation at www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jwbna1u5uyY. At 55:50 Andrew shares that our recent conversations made him consider how great it would be if he and his wife would have had children and that raising children would probably have told him some hard...

Watch the replay of our Web Jam about this topic at www.youtube.com/watch?v=UuG8CADp9V0&t=749s To understand why families matter for functioning communities and a better word, we need to take a closer look at human history and modern societies. In the image below...

Watch the replay of our Web Jam about this topic at https://youtu.be/8Ho20O9066Y You can watch the full replay with comments at https://events.genndi.com/replay/169105139238472651/ae2efe76e3/0/0 Most people know about the statistics that couples in healthy happy love...

#4 of 12 Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries: We use our relationship for ongoing mutual learning, healing, growing, and awakening towards the capacity to love unconditionally.   Learning about the world, yourself and your partner by staying curious,...

With transcend I mean to go beyond, while reasonably including. With primary fantasy, a term I first read in Warren Farrell's book Why Men Are the Way They Are, I mean the biological hardwiring of heterosexual males to desire young(er) sexy females with smooth skin,...

#2 of 12 Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries: "We see the depth of our heart and soul connection as well as the level of humility and devotion to our relationship as an indicator of our psychological health and spiritual realization." With heart connection...

Value #1 of 12 Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries: We choose to love instead of something that happens to us or that we attract. A few weeks after publishing Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men in 2010, I received a flyer with "10 Core Values for...

Last year, after publishing Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men, I heard Evolutionary Enlightenment Guru Andrew Cohen and Beyond Awakening teacher Terry Patten speak live.  Until then, I felt caught in a state of presence, surrender, acceptance and non-resistance...

According to social philosopher Jürgen Habermas*, all human actions (which Gandhi says become our habits, values and destiny), are always primarily coordinated by speech or language use. Whenever humans use language to coordinate their love relationships, they enter...

In an Integral Evolutionary Relationship, both partners are at an Integral or higher level of consciousness and share (1) what they love to do/feel called to do, (2) what they do well, (3) what the world needs, and (4) what the world will pay for--their Evolutionary...

As we evolve as humans, so do our love relationships. At this point of our human history we can map out eight stages: 1. In the most fundamental form, love relationships are driven by basic survival instincts: food, shelter and sex. Our primary sexual selection...

One detail that is missing in Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men are the three Instinctual Variants in the Enneagram. You can do a test at www.enneagraminstitute.com/ivq.asp#.UXVre7Wsh8E what variant you are. Some relationship experts maintain that couples with...

Almost 150 people participated in last weeks survey about monogamy vs. non-monogamy and many provided additional perspectives. Thank you to all of you! Mono Non-Mono Mono Mono Non-Mono Non-Mono Celibacy Celibacy Celibacy Other Level Both Sexes Both Sexes Male Female...

After my friend Bill McCart took a look at The 12 Core Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries he pointed out that the last one, "We engage in sacred/tantric sexuality and practice monogamy out of choice instead of fear" implies that all people at an Integral...

1. It takes two people to co-create a love relationship, but only one person to end it. 2. Men (statistically) suffer more after breakups and divorces than women*. 3. Men generally benefit more from being in a committed love relationship/marriage than women do**, but...

There are many reasons why couples argue, get into fights and end their relationships, and why singles can't find a partner or avoid relationships altogether: - Unfulfilled primary fantasies. - Different passions, lifestyle choices or visions for the relationship. -...

Barbara Marx Hubbard gives us a first pointer to answering the question if women are more evolved than men when she shared: "I have always been inspired by the great men who were evolutionaries. They were all men! I was attracted to their ideas and their seed, and it...

What is an Integral Relationship Evolutionary? Throughout history, males and females co-created three major forms of relationships that supported their survival and procreation:* 1. In hunter/gatherer societies that existed exclusively until about 12.000 years ago,...

Of course I am kidding about "Secrets".  There are no secrets! After reading over 200 relationship books, participating in countless workshops and trainings, dating for several years (after being married twice for a total of 21 years, with four daughters), and writing...

In a dialog with Allan Combs, Ken Wilber gave four definitions for Integral: 1. To be Integrally informed. 2. A horizontal integration of the four quadrants at a particular level of consciousness. 3. The highest levels of development possible. 4. The integration of...

Last Thursday 2/9/2012, I had the great honor and pleasure to meet Ken Wilber at his loft in Denver, CO (it was my first of five visits total so far). At the end of ISE #2 over New Years 2010/11 I was shocked, saddened, and moved to tears for several weeks after...

In early December last year I ranted in a newsletter about "lying relationship experts".  An emotional button was pushed when I heard the Soul Mate expert who I was trained by as a Coach promoting Conscious Uncoupling and Calling In "The Next One" courses to her...

The pictures below may better illustrate the point that I was trying to make in my last newsletter. The authors of the 200+ relationship books in my research library below are all specialists who cover a certain area of the entire relationship territory.  I owe a lot...

January 2012 / Notes from the Field Integral Leadership Review Barbara Larisch and Robin Reinach Does Integral make us happier? Martin Ucik questioned at the beginning of his presentation to Integral New York on Oct. 17, 2011. This issue hung in the air throughout...

I spent the New Year's weekend 2011/2012 with over 300 Evolutionaries from around the world at the Integral Spiritual Experience #3 in Asilomar, CA and had a blast!  Our theme was "Kosmic Creativity -- because life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating...

Eckhart Tolle writes in The Power Of Now on page 132 (page 159 paperback edition): "Humanity is under great pressure to evolve because it is our only chance of survival as a race.  This will affect every aspect of our life and close relationships in particular...