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Co-Creative and Procreative Impulse

Co-Creative and Procreative Impulse

The problem with Creationsim, Evolutionary Theory, and Intelligent Design is that they let humans off the hook from taking full responsibility for a better world and a peaceful and sustainable future for humanity by co-creating more goodness, truth, beauty and...

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When Shadow Meets the Bodhisattva Book Review

When Shadow Meets the Bodhisattva Book Review

The Good, the Bad, the Ugly: Andrew Cohen changed my life during his talk about Evolutionary Enlightenment in the fall of 2010 in Sausalito, CA. During it, I began to realize that there is a co-creative life force (what he calls evolutionary impulse) that...

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Why Relationships Matter

Why Relationships Matter

Ideas move from mind to mind, but I don’t know that these ideas are always selected with reference to what helps the listeners leave the most offspring in the next generation. ~ Holmes Rolston III ~ A better system will not automatically ensure a better life. In fact,...

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The All or Nothing Marriage

The All or Nothing Marriage

This post was inspired by Eli J. Finkel's 2017 eye-opening book "The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work." In it, he describes the progression from pre-industrial "tribal" marriages in which multigenerational families worked together on their farms...

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State-Stages of spiritual development

State-Stages of spiritual development

Spiritual state-stages tend to unfold in a certain order that are sometimes likened to the three broad states that every human being, regardless of age, level of consciousness, education, or cultural background, experiences during the course of a typical day: The...

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US marriage rate drops below 50%

US marriage rate drops below 50%

Dear Integral,This month, the Pew Research Center published a new report, showing that in 2019 the share of unpartnered American adults had risen to 38% percent and marriage rates fell to 53%. This trend has only continued since then, and we see it in many other...

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How couples met (US survey)

How couples met (US survey)

As you can see in the statistics below, most couples now met online. The School of Humanities and Sciences drew on a nationally representative 2017 survey of American adults and found that about 39 percent of heterosexual couples reported meeting their partner online....

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Are relationships based on profits?

Are relationships based on profits?

Need-based relationships often are. If there is a mutually beneficial exchange between the partners, even if asymmetrical, the relationship can be healthy. But as needs and the unwillingness to meet them change, the relationships become unstable. Shared purpose can...

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Anima-Animus Complex Development

Anima-Animus Complex Development

In Jungian psychology, the anima and animus are seen as the bridge to the soul. One way to experience the soul is to get in touch with the unique sense of self that remains after we strip away all learned conceptions and false beliefs (ego) about who we are.[i] What...

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How can I find my soulmate?

How can I find my soulmate?

There are three levels of soulmates. Each higher-level transcends and includes the previous one. Your first step is to become clear about what level of soulmate you want to find/attract. A “Biological Soulmate” that you feel physically attracted to, experience...

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Why to be in a love relationship

Why to be in a love relationship

After 10 years of rigorous scientific research, the German religious scholar Dr. Michael Blume documented a clear connection between mythic conservative religions and higher fertility rates. He called it "preach and breed" in his (German) book Religion and Demografie....

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How are Sexuality and Spirituality connected?

How are Sexuality and Spirituality connected?

First of all, both are temporary states, which means sexual and spiritual peak experiences tend to come and go. Secondly, both unfold in 5 stages that are connected and unfold together, especially in state five of transcendental tantric sexuality, which requires a...

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ONE Secret to Leading a Fulfilling Life

ONE Secret to Leading a Fulfilling Life

    For over 80 years, Harvard's Grant and Glueck study (https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/) tracked the physical and emotional well-being of two...

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Why are there no evolved men around me?

Why are there no evolved men around me?

First of all, no woman knows “all” men and may stand in her own way of attracting an “evolved” partner by thinking this way.  Secondly, there are multiple developmental lines or intelligences that humans can evolve in, such as consciousness, cognitive,...

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The journey towards Integral Relationships

The journey towards Integral Relationships

73% of Americans believe in soulmates. Most of them envision everlasting love, romance, sexual attraction, and happiness, and to live happily ever after once they fall in love–without having to do any ongoing work in their relationship. However, this is a magical...

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Compatibility Matrix

Compatibility Matrix

Locating Your Partner and Yourself on the Compatibility Matrix (From Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men page 153 - 162) Generally speaking, we can say that individuals who are fully actualized at their level of consciousness are most compatible with partners who...

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Need-Based communication

Need-Based communication

We often hear that good communication is the most important thing to make relationships work. While this is essentially true, it is often not understood that people who are at different levels of consciousness development cannot solve their relationship conflicts...

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Where are all the integral men?

Where are all the integral men?

It is an interesting phenomenon that men by any measure (life expectancy, physical health, job security, financial income, social status, sexual satisfaction, emotional stability, substance abuse, suicide rate, etc.) benefit more from being in love relationships than...

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What is an Integral Relationship?

What is an Integral Relationship?

In a dialog with Allan Combs, Ken Wilber gave four definitions for Integral: 1. To be Integrally informed. 2. A horizontal integration of the four quadrants at a particular level of consciousness. 3. The highest levels of development possible. 4. The integration of...

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Integral Relationship Evolutionaries

Integral Relationship Evolutionaries

In an Integral Evolutionary Relationship, both partners are at an Integral or higher level of consciousness and share (1) what they love to do/feel called to do, (2) what they do well, (3) what the world needs, and (4) what the world will pay for--their Evolutionary...

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Why would a person lie?

Why would a person lie?

Because he/she does not feel safe with you or does not trust you to be able to hear his or her truth without rejecting, judging, or punishing. People may also lie to themselves and others out of shame, fear, or guilt. Telling the truth can be a very vulnerable and...

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How can I live my purpose and find my soulmate?

How can I live my purpose and find my soulmate?

The first step is to realize that you have a Biological Purpose that you share with all other living creatures. It determines who you are physically attracted to and compatible with in your lifestyle choices. The second step is to get clarity about your psychological...

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