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What to look for in my soulmate?

What to look for in my soulmate?

Your soul is like the seed of a plant. It holds your full human potential, just like an acorn holds the potential to grow into an oak tree. Soulmates uniquely see each other's full human potentials and complement and challenge each other to realize it. These...

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How can I build my future?

How can I build my future?

As John Lennon said and we all experience right now, “life is happening while we make other plans.” So in that sense, we cannot build our future. The things that had the biggest impact on my life, such as meeting my wife and mother of my three children, finding a...

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How do I attract miracles into my life?

How do I attract miracles into my life?

By realizing that being alive in itself is a miracle and by opening up to all the possibilities and invitations that you are presented with from moment to moment. Unfortunately, the Ego, our separate and false sense of self, sees life as a problem, as lacking, as...

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How can I have a sense of fulfillment?

How can I have a sense of fulfillment?

This is a great question, especially in these times of uncertainty and transformation. Many studies show that humans who live their purpose and are in happy love relationships are most healthy and fulfilled. There are three broad layers of purpose that also define who...

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What is life?

What is life?

I picked this question because of the movie “The Tree of Life” with Jessica Chastain, Sean Penn and Brad Pitt that we will watch tonight. In it, we see how a religious family struggles with this very question after one of their members dies. All healthy humans...

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I want to understand women’s souls more deeply.

I want to understand women’s souls more deeply.

Carol Gilligan wrote in her famous book “In a Different Voice” that gave me sleepless nights: “Men try to understand others by understanding themselves; women try to understand themselves by understanding others.” If this resonates with you as it did with me, then you...

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I can’t find love. What can I do?

I can’t find love. What can I do?

Divided couple are separated by white wall Of course my answer is to become integrally informed about love relationships by integrating the essential wisdom from the East (e.g. chakras and spirituality) with the scientific knowledge from the West (e.g. psychology,...

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How to create a common Relationship language.

How to create a common Relationship language.

The first step is to identify what level of consciousness you and your partner are at (magic, egocentric, conformist, rational, pluralistic, or integral), as people at different levels use different arguments for validating what is good, true, beautiful and practical...

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How can I love unconditionally?

How can I love unconditionally?

There are two forms of unconditional love. One is localized, for example loving a child, pet, parent or  partner unconditionally. This means, whatever will happen, I extend myself for the purpose of nurturing your material and physical well-being, as well as your...

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Why do the conflicts in our marriage repeat?

Why do the conflicts in our marriage repeat?

There can be multiple reasons, or a combination of them. Naturally, becoming integrally informed and experienced is the foundation for identifying resolving any relationship conflict. Below are a few reasons why you struggle:The first may be that you may have...

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Is anger and fear inevitable?

Is anger and fear inevitable?

Being able to feel emotions is part of what makes us human. So yes, they are inevitable. Primary emotions evolved in response to challenges faced by our remote ancestors and became ‘hardwired’ into different parts of our brains. They are commonly identified as...

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Is it a mistake to care more about sex than love?

Is it a mistake to care more about sex than love?

If you are totally clear and honest about your intentions, feelings and desires, if they are mutal, and if the sex is consensual and healthy, then I see no problem with caring more about sex than love. However, it can be tricky, as women often get attached after sex...

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I am afraid of getting married. I am always the one who changes other’s tune and I am afraid of being cheated. I am also afraid of being abandoned. I’m afraid of marriage. I’m always the one in the relationship and apologizing: I have a fear of being cheated and I have a fear of being abandoned.

I am afraid of getting married. I am always the one who changes other’s tune and I am afraid of being cheated. I am also afraid of being abandoned. I’m afraid of marriage. I’m always the one in the relationship and apologizing: I have a fear of being cheated and I have a fear of being abandoned.

Thank you for your question. I sense your conflict between being in committed safe relationship, and your fear of disappointment. Your conflict is most likely related to a highly avoidant and/or highly anxious attachment style. If that is the case, see my answer to ...

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Trust and value problem in a relationship

Trust and value problem in a relationship

It can be very scary when we no longer trust our partner and when our values don’t match. Trust is mainly an inside job. This means, we don’t trust ourselves enough to be OK when someone else would let us down, and/or we don’t have healthy boundaries and clear values...

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Not being able to meet/to be relaxed.

Not being able to meet/to be relaxed.

Thank you for your question. Do you mean to physically meet and relax together? Are there practical reasons (time, money, distance, no place to meet etc.) or emotional reasons (not enough attraction, fear, shame, different needs and expectations?). maybe you can...

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Why men want to lead in the relationship?

Why men want to lead in the relationship?

Thank you for the question. It sounds like you feel powerless in your relationship. As you see all around you, males who are in leadership have the highest social status, hold the most power, often make the most money, AND have the most attractive (=fertile) females....

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How a life-lasting marriage is possible?

How a life-lasting marriage is possible?

I am excited to hear that you have this desire, as it is our vision and mission to empower couples to have life-long marriages. There are several keys: First that couples are at the same level of development in crucial areas such as consciousness, emotions, sexuality,...

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I feel love for everyone and everything, and am often drawn to multiple partners. I also have a deep yearning to be with my soulmate and to get married. Is there a practical way to do this?

I feel love for everyone and everything, and am often drawn to multiple partners. I also have a deep yearning to be with my soulmate and to get married. Is there a practical way to do this?

Feeling love for everyone and everything is a wonderful stage. It also opens the door to what is called polyamory (many loves), and often includes sexuality. Why limit our love and sexuality to one person if we can love everyone? Isn’t monogamy an unnatural product of...

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How can I get my partner to love me? How can I find a partner and fall in love? Why do I have a lack of love in my life? When will I fall in love? How can I feel that I deserve to be loved? How can I find inner love?

How can I get my partner to love me? How can I find a partner and fall in love? Why do I have a lack of love in my life? When will I fall in love? How can I feel that I deserve to be loved? How can I find inner love?

The answer to these questions depends largely on our definition of love and at what level of consciousness development and spiritual awareness we are. This defines our capacity to love and what makes us feel loved. On a physical level of survival and sexuality,...

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Communication problems and insecurity.

Communication problems and insecurity.

This may be related to self-validated versus other-validated intimacy, which is essentially an inner insecurity or lack of communication skills, or both.  David Schnarch characterizes it this way:Other-validated intimacy requires your partner to validate and accept...

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