You most likely attract men who have not developed their healthy masculine and may be identified with an unhealthy or repressed feminine (or Anima). This way, you cannot relax into your healthy feminine polarity. Another possibility is that you may not have developed your healthy feminine enough and are stuck in unhealthy masculine polarities. This can be resolved by differentiating healthy from unhealthy feminine and masculine polarities, and to develop healthy expressions of both. Once you do that, you will attract men who have also developed their healthy feminine and masculine polarities. You can then both balance and harmonize your polarities in a healthy love relationship.