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How couples met (US survey)

How couples met (US survey)

As you can see in the statistics below, most couples now met online. The School of Humanities and Sciences drew on a nationally representative 2017 survey of American adults and found that about 39 percent of heterosexual couples reported meeting their partner online....

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Are relationships based on profits?

Are relationships based on profits?

Need-based relationships often are. If there is a mutually beneficial exchange between the partners, even if asymmetrical, the relationship can be healthy. But as needs and the unwillingness to meet them change, the relationships become unstable. Shared purpose can...

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Anima-Animus Complex Development

Anima-Animus Complex Development

In Jungian psychology, the anima and animus are seen as the bridge to the soul. One way to experience the soul is to get in touch with the unique sense of self that remains after we strip away all learned conceptions and false beliefs (ego) about who we are.[i] What...

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How can I find my soulmate?

How can I find my soulmate?

There are three levels of soulmates. Each higher-level transcends and includes the previous one. Your first step is to become clear about what level of soulmate you want to find/attract. A “Biological Soulmate” that you feel physically attracted to, experience...

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Why to be in a love relationship

Why to be in a love relationship

After 10 years of rigorous scientific research, the German religious scholar Dr. Michael Blume documented a clear connection between mythic conservative religions and higher fertility rates. He called it "preach and breed" in his (German) book Religion and Demografie....

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How are Sexuality and Spirituality connected?

How are Sexuality and Spirituality connected?

First of all, both are temporary states, which means sexual and spiritual peak experiences tend to come and go. Secondly, both unfold in 5 stages that are connected and unfold together, especially in state five of transcendental tantric sexuality, which requires a...

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ONE Secret to Leading a Fulfilling Life

ONE Secret to Leading a Fulfilling Life

    For over 80 years, Harvard's Grant and Glueck study (https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/) tracked the physical and emotional well-being of two...

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Why are there no evolved men around me?

Why are there no evolved men around me?

First of all, no woman knows “all” men and may stand in her own way of attracting an “evolved” partner by thinking this way.  Secondly, there are multiple developmental lines or intelligences that humans can evolve in, such as consciousness, cognitive,...

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The journey towards Integral Relationships

The journey towards Integral Relationships

73% of Americans believe in soulmates. Most of them envision everlasting love, romance, sexual attraction, and happiness, and to live happily ever after once they fall in love–without having to do any ongoing work in their relationship. However, this is a magical...

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Compatibility Matrix

Compatibility Matrix

Locating Your Partner and Yourself on the Compatibility Matrix   (From Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men page 153 - 162) Generally speaking, we can say that individuals who are fully actualized at their level of consciousness are most compatible with...

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Need-Based communication

Need-Based communication

We often hear that good communication is the most important thing to make relationships work. While this is essentially true, it is often not understood that people who are at different levels of consciousness development cannot solve their relationship conflicts...

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Where are all the integral men?

Where are all the integral men?

It is an interesting phenomenon that men by any measure (life expectancy, physical health, job security, financial income, social status, sexual satisfaction, emotional stability, substance abuse, suicide rate, etc.) benefit more from being in love relationships than...

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What is an Integral Relationship?

What is an Integral Relationship?

In a dialog with Allan Combs, Ken Wilber gave four definitions for Integral: 1. To be Integrally informed. 2. A horizontal integration of the four quadrants at a particular level of consciousness. 3. The highest levels of development possible. 4. The integration of...

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Evolution of Relationships

Evolution of Relationships

As we evolve as humans, so do our love relationships. At this point of our human history we can map out eight stages: 1. In the most fundamental form, love relationships are driven by basic survival instincts: food, shelter and sex. Our primary sexual selection...

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Integral Relationship Evolutionaries

Integral Relationship Evolutionaries

In an Integral Evolutionary Relationship, both partners are at an Integral or higher level of consciousness and share (1) what they love to do/feel called to do, (2) what they do well, (3) what the world needs, and (4) what the world will pay for--their Evolutionary...

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Why would a person lie?

Why would a person lie?

Because he/she does not feel safe with you or does not trust you to be able to hear his or her truth without rejecting, judging, or punishing. People may also lie to themselves and others out of shame, fear, or guilt. Telling the truth can be a very vulnerable and...

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How can I live my purpose and find my soulmate?

How can I live my purpose and find my soulmate?

The first step is to realize that you have a Biological Purpose that you share with all other living creatures. It determines who you are physically attracted to and compatible with in your lifestyle choices. The second step is to get clarity about your psychological...

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Do spiritually evolved people lose sexual desire?

Do spiritually evolved people lose sexual desire?

The sex hormones testosterone, estrogen and dopamine, and the associated neurotransmitters that act upon the nucleus accumbens, regulate libido in humans. These chemicals are either naturally released so that we experience lust and desire to make babies, or heightened...

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I want to understand women’s souls more deeply.

I want to understand women’s souls more deeply.

Carol Gilligan wrote in her famous book “In a Different Voice” that gave me sleepless nights: “Men try to understand others by understanding themselves; women try to understand themselves by understanding others.” If this resonates with you as it did with me, then you...

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Nobody loves me. What is wrong with me?

Nobody loves me. What is wrong with me?

You are not alone. Singles who yearn for a partner and couples who experience relationship stress often feel that nobody loves them, or that they are not lovable and that there is something wrong with them; and that includes me at times. Of course, this is not true....

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