You can have a happy relationship at any level of development and awareness, as long as you and your partner are at the same level and realize that higher levels are always possible. Then you can make an agreement to learn, heal, grow, and awaken together to realize your full potentials. The challenge is to accurately evaluate yourself and him/her. Good questions to ask are; (1) what is of ultimate concern to you, (2) what identity are you defending, (3) what are you aware of, (4) what are you identified with (material things, your body, your mind, your feelings, your experiences, (5) what is real to you, (6) what matters most to you, (7) what upsets you, and (8) when do you get emotionally triggered? You may also do Love Languages, Ennegram, and Attachment Style tests together and discuss the results. All of this will quickly give you a sense about your and your partners “Kosmik Address”. 

Secondly, it is important that you share a purpose in your relationship that is larger than either one of you. Good questions to explore are (1) what are we most passionate about, (2) how do we create more goodness, truth, beauty, and functioning in the world as a couple, and (3) what will be our legacy? 

Thirdly, it is important that you agree to share and co-develop in all four dimensions of your being (1) your mind and unconscious, (2) your body and sexuality, (3) your relationships and communication, and (4) your work and social environment. 

Finally, with all humility, I suggest that you read and discuss my book Turkish Title together and come to our events.

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