You are probably very self-reliant and take responsibility for every single issue that appears in your life, so you don’t really need anyone. When it comes to your own feelings, needs, and desires, you barely pay attention to them and rarely express them. Your relationship is most likely profoundly imbalanced, with you giving far more often than you receive. This creates a distance between you and your partner, who thinks that you don’t really need, want, appreciate, or even love him, because you rarely ask for anything or accept his help. When you feel overwhelmed, exhausted or frustrated, and finally express a need or desire, which may be at an inappropriate time and in a demanding or blaming way, your partner may feel annoyed and put you down. This makes you feel rejected and brings up an old wound of being a burden to others.
In essence you seem to have a wrong belief about life, others and yourself that stem from your childhood. To reverse this process, I suggest that you connect more deeply with your feelings, needs and desires, and welcome them with love. Then the truth will reveal itself: your feelings, needs and desires are valid and essential for your own well-being as well as the well-being of others. This allows you to ask for what you need and receive it without feeling burdensome to your partner, and thus build a more balanced and loving relationship.Â
If this resonates with you, contact me and I will send you more information on how you can understand and heal your pattern.