Book to learn and practice through a test how you and others react differently under relationship stress. There are four general attachment styles that are formed in early childhood and impact our adult life. Secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious/avoidant (also called disorganized or ambivalent). Once one of the styles is established, it stays with us and shows up in the ways we form or avoid intimate relationships. Understanding attachment styles is essential, because of the insights they offer how partners may be emotionally limited in their capacity to relate. This understanding can greatly help us to realize in what areas we need to heal to become more securely attached in our love relationships.