Communication problems and insecurity.
This may be related to self-validated versus other-validated intimacy, which is essentially an inner insecurity or lack of communication skills, or both. David Schnarch characterizes it this way:Other-validated intimacy requires your partner to validate and accept...
After routine and pressuring relationships I started a relationship that gives me more freedom. I wish to have more balance.
It seems that you grew in conscious from a mythic/conformist to a modern/rational level, which gives you more freedom, but also more responsibility. Along with this growth, women often become more masculine, which may make them feel less balanced. In the mythic stage,...
When there is a negative feedback on what I value and really care about, I immediately switch to self-defense. What can I do for that?
This has to do with a repressed childhood wound, or what is sometimes called “a false identity” that you are defending. Getting triggered that way is a wonderful opportunity to identify this false identity and to correct it with a positive affirmation. The important...
My partner doesn’t know how to care for me. I want to remember what love was.
There are seven different forms and intensities of love. They are created through a combination of intimacy, passion and commitment that vary in intensity for each partner. You may visualize these three ingredients of love as a metaphorical triangle. If your triangle...