List of Figures

Figure 1: The 14 essential dimensions of an Integral Relationship 4
Figure 2: Integral Relationship co-created along the seven chakras 6
Figure 3: Unconditional love circle 16
Figure 4: The four dimensions of being 32
Figure 5: The four dimensions of relating 33
Figure 6: Manifestations in the four dimensions/quadrants 39
Figure 7: The eight zones and their major fields of study 44
Figure 8: Perspectives of the eight zones 45
Figure 9: Eight developmental stages in the four dimensions of being 46
Figure 10: Age and developmental potentials of mental complexity 51
Figure 11: Development through integration and transformation 54
Figure 12: Levels/stages of consciousness development 55
Figure 13: Consciousness ladders 56
Figure 14: Transcend and include/exclude nested dolls 58
Figure 15: Interior and exterior control 73
Figure 16: Young-old woman 83
Figure 17: Different person when looking from a distance 84
Figure 18: Compatibility Matrix 100
Figure 19: Male-female dynamic in consciousness growth 101
Figure 20: Divergent psychological complexity of men and women 102
Figure 21: The STAGES Matrix 105
Figure 22: Organon model of language with levels of consciousness 129
Figure 23: Explicit versus implicit (tacit) use of language 131
Figure 24: Dreaded Drama Triangle 132
Figure 25: Drama and empowerment triangles 134
Figure 26: Four basic steps for conflict resolution 136
Figure 27: The primary sexual fantasy dynamic 166
Figure 28: The 10 phases of the fear–shame downward spiral 174
Figure 29: River with masculine banks and feminine flow 185
Figure 30: Personality matrix 187
Figure 31: Leading and following hula hoop exercise 192
Figure 32: Subtle co-creation hula hoop exercise 194
Figure 33: Exercise ascending, descending, agency, communion 197
Figure 34: Ascending, descending, agency, communion 198
Figure 35: Feminine-masculine in the four dimensions 204
Figure 36: The Wilber-Combs matrix with spiritual state-stages 214
Figure 37: Four levels of selfhood and reality in religions 230
Figure 38: Four dimensions of integral sexuality 237
Figure 39: Wilber-Combs matrix adopted for sexual state-stages 243
Figure 40: Forms of non-monogamy 251
Figure 41: Examples of lunch/dinner table drawings 260
Figure 42: The Five Love Languages 280
Figure 43: The nine Enneagram types 295
Figure 44: Four attachment styles 328
Figure 45: Primary emotions and vulnerable feelings 339
Figure 46: Layers of emotion, feeling, false belief, and fear 352
Figure 47: The triangle of love 370
Figure 48: Compatible and incompatible triangles of love 371
Figure 49: Eight forms of love 371
Figure 50: US statistics for origin of humans 420
Figure 51: Acceptance of evolutionary theory 421
Figure 52: Biological purpose 423
Figure 53: Cause and response in male-female relationships 425
Figure 54: Seven chakras 425
Figure 55: Transactional desire and love 427
Figure 56: Transactional love chakra-consciousness matrix 428
Figure 57: Four dimensions, chakras, and consciousness 429
Figure 58: The good, true, beautiful, and functional quadrants 437
Figure 59: Sapiosexual woman 441
Figure 60: Meiosis 441
Figure 61: Genetically predisposed talents 442
Figure 62: Skill development based on talents 442
Figure 63: Development and expression of talents 443
Figure 64: Ikigai 455
Figure 65: Ikigai and connection to the four dimensions 456
Figure 66: Bill Plotkin’s Eight Stages of Maturity 461
Figure 67: Millennium Project 15 global challenges 462
Figure 68: United Nations global issues overview 463
Figure 69: Circle of influence and concern 464
Figure 70: Example of enactment of purpose 464
Figure 71: Combining talents 466
Figure 72: Transcendental desire and love 467
Figure 73: Co-created transcendental love between the seven chakras 468
Figure 74: Transcendental love chakra matrix 469
Figure 75: Cloud Atlas timeline and characters 472
Figure 76: Metaphor of co-creative impulse 477
Figure 77: Metaphorical transformational soulmates development 478
Figure 78: The seven chakras 499
Figure 79: Seven chakra co-creation in the four dimensions of relating 515
Figure 80: Integral couple making the world a better place 518
Figure 81: Natural world, lifeworld, and system 531
Figure 82: Ecological footprint of single versus family living 534
Figure 83: World fertility rate map 535
Figure 84: Japan, China, and US populations age 536
Figure 85: German population age distribution 1910, 2005, and 2025 536
Figure 86: Fertility rates and overall decline in consciousness 538
Figure 87: Israel’s projected demographic shift 539
Figure 88: Female in domestic, and male in public sphere 540
Figure 89: Female and male in the domestic and public spheres 540
Figure 90: Individual and social holons 542
Figure 91: Size, depth, and span of individual and social holons 543
Figure 92: Holonic structure with highest depth given to couples 544
Figure 93: Collapsing social holons 545
Figure 94: Closing circle with touching hands and thumbs up 559
Figure 95: Enneagram holy ideas…………………………………………..602
Figure 96: Enneagram specific reactions…………………………………..603
Figure 97: Enneagram specific delusions………………………………….604
Figure 98: The NARM healing cycle……………………………………….628
Figure 99: Marriages per 1000 People……………………………………..676
Figure 100: US statistic men and women looking for partner…………..678
Figure 101: US statistic men and women looking for partner…………..679
Figure 102: Societal secularism as fertility determinant…………………685
Figure 103: Secularism in various countries………………………………686