by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
First of all, it is very compassionate of you that you take care of him when he is down, even if it is frustrating to you. Not taking care of him is of course no solution to improve your relationship. Men usually don’t speak when they feel shame about having problems....
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
In psychologically healthy people, emotions either give important information when our needs are not met, or they point to some unresolved childhood wounds/shadow. In the first case, I suggest that you learn to identify the emotion and connect it to an unmet need. You...
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
This may be related to self-validated versus other-validated intimacy, which is essentially an inner insecurity or lack of communication skills, or both. David Schnarch characterizes it this way:Other-validated intimacy requires your partner to validate and accept...
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
It seems that you grew in conscious from a mythic/conformist to a modern/rational level, which gives you more freedom, but also more responsibility. Along with this growth, women often become more masculine, which may make them feel less balanced. In the mythic stage,...
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
This has to do with a repressed childhood wound, or what is sometimes called “a false identity” that you are defending. Getting triggered that way is a wonderful opportunity to identify this false identity and to correct it with a positive affirmation. The important...
