by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
You most likely attract men who have not developed their healthy masculine and may be identified with an unhealthy or repressed feminine (or Anima). This way, you cannot relax into your healthy feminine polarity. Another possibility is that you may not have developed...
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
You either have an avoidant attachment style or you quickly go down the fear-shame spiral. For the former we can send you a test and work with you on becoming more secure. For the latter we suggest that you look at the shame (if you are a man) or fear (if you are a...
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
First of all, it is very compassionate of you that you take care of him when he is down, even if it is frustrating to you. Not taking care of him is of course no solution to improve your relationship. Men usually don’t speak when they feel shame about having problems....
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
In psychologically healthy people, emotions either give important information when our needs are not met, or they point to some unresolved childhood wounds/shadow. In the first case, I suggest that you learn to identify the emotion and connect it to an unmet need. You...
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
This may be related to self-validated versus other-validated intimacy, which is essentially an inner insecurity or lack of communication skills, or both.  David Schnarch characterizes it this way:Other-validated intimacy requires your partner to validate and accept...
by Martin Ucik | Apr 9, 2020 | Blog
It seems that you grew in conscious from a mythic/conformist to a modern/rational level, which gives you more freedom, but also more responsibility. Along with this growth, women often become more masculine, which may make them feel less balanced. In the mythic stage,...
