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Upcoming Events
Book Pre-Launch Event: “Living Tantra: A Journey into Sex, Spirit & Relationship“ with Author Jan Day and Martin Ucik.
October 29th, 6:00 PM UTC, (11:00 AM PDT, 2:00 PM EDT, 20:00 CEST)
Join Jan and Martin for a juicy and intimate conversation about what inspired Jan to write her new book, what makes her approach to Tantra unique, an embodied exercise, sharing and Q&A.
From the Foreword:
For a real understanding of Tantra, rather than trying to assess the spirituality of the many colorful varieties spread across its rainbow path, it is more informative to look at the word’s literal meaning – “a weaving together”. Tantra is indeed a kind of magic carpet; it signifies “the weaving together of all that is”. And as the term applies uniquely to us – to human beings – it aims to offer each of us a way to weave together all that we are into a single, integrated whole being.
Click here to pre-order the book.
Saturday, November 13th, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Biological Differences and Learned Gender Roles“
Learn and practice how to differentiate between what is biologically given by nature between males and females, and learned gender roles or nurture between men and women. This will allow you to gain a better understanding of your own and the opposite sex.
Are men really from Mars and women from Venus? Of course, today we know much more about biological differences and learned gender roles of males and females, so that we no longer have to refer to Greek and Roman mythology. But what are these differences? What is biologically given, and what is culturally and socially conditioned? What is nature and what is nurture? What impact does our perspective and level of consciousness have on answering these questions? What is the feminist perspective and what do gender studies tell us? How can we understand the opposite sex better if we never walked in their shoes (or lived in their bodies)? Why are there differences to begin with? Are we still (male) hunters and (female) gatherers? Why do we have gender conflicts to begin with and how can we resolve them? The answers are found through active listening, vulnerable sharing, deep understanding, non-judgmental acceptance, authentic empathy, and caring compassion. Join us in a safe environment for an engaging and eye-opening experiential exploration of these exciting and important topics. Learn about and understand the opposite sex as you have never before by hearing about their deepest secrets, truths, fears, shame, frustrations, desires, hopes, attractions, joys, appreciations, and needs. Make peace with yourself and the opposite sex. Live happily ever after!
Sunday, November 14th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Biological Differences and Learned Gender Roles“
Learn and practice how to differentiate between what is biologically given by nature between males and females, and learned gender roles or nurture between men and women. This will allow you to gain a better understanding of your own and the opposite sex.
Are men really from Mars and women from Venus? Of course, today we know much more about biological differences and learned gender roles of males and females, so that we no longer have to refer to Greek and Roman mythology. But what are these differences? What is biologically given, and what is culturally and socially conditioned? What is nature and what is nurture? What impact does our perspective and level of consciousness have on answering these questions? What is the feminist perspective and what do gender studies tell us? How can we understand the opposite sex better if we never walked in their shoes (or lived in their bodies)? Why are there differences to begin with? Are we still (male) hunters and (female) gatherers? Why do we have gender conflicts to begin with and how can we resolve them? The answers are found through active listening, vulnerable sharing, deep understanding, non-judgmental acceptance, authentic empathy, and caring compassion. Join us in a safe environment for an engaging and eye-opening experiential exploration of these exciting and important topics. Learn about and understand the opposite sex as you have never before by hearing about their deepest secrets, truths, fears, shame, frustrations, desires, hopes, attractions, joys, appreciations, and needs. Make peace with yourself and the opposite sex. Live happily ever after!
Saturday, November 20th, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Avoiding the Fear – Shame Downward Spiral“
Learn and practice how to avoid going down the fear-shame spiral and how to heal and return to love if it already happened.
About 50% of relationships crash because couples unconsciously go down the fear-shame spiral. The first step to avoid this unnecessary and emotionally frustrating painful downward spiral is for men to understand why women experience fear under relationship stress, and for women to understand why men experience shame. Second, we need to recognize and learn about the nine phases of the downward spiral and why they unfold in the order that they do. The third step is to practice how to reverse our path down the spiral by emotionally connecting with our partner’s fear or shame at each level. This allows us to make amends and to return to the romance, love, and intimacy that we experienced at the beginning of the relationship. By joining us, you will make your own love relationship crash-proof and become able to support your family and friends who are going down the spiral in finding back to love.
Sunday, November 21st, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Avoiding the Fear – Shame Downward Spiral“
Learn and practice how to avoid going down the fear-shame spiral and how to heal and return to love if it already happened.
About 50% of relationships crash because couples unconsciously go down the fear-shame spiral. The first step to avoid this unnecessary and emotionally frustrating painful downward spiral is for men to understand why women experience fear under relationship stress, and for women to understand why men experience shame. Second, we need to recognize and learn about the nine phases of the downward spiral and why they unfold in the order that they do. The third step is to practice how to reverse our path down the spiral by emotionally connecting with our partner’s fear or shame at each level. This allows us to make amends and to return to the romance, love, and intimacy that we experienced at the beginning of the relationship. By joining us, you will make your own love relationship crash-proof and become able to support your family and friends who are going down the spiral in finding back to love.
Saturday, November 27th, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Feminine-Masculine Polarities“
Learn and practice how to develop, balance and harmonize healthy feminine and masculine polarities for the co-creation of sexual attraction and synergy in happy sustainable love relationships. Embodying these four polarities allows both partners to be simultaneously whole in themselves and part of the relationship.
The Integral Relationship model equates ascending and agency with masculine and descending and communion with feminine energies. Each has healthy and unhealthy expressions.
After the introduction to the four polarities and establishing that males and females can equally embody them, we will engage in several exercises with music and movement to experience their healthy and unhealthy expressions. This will enable you to realize your healing and growth potentials for the co-creation of healthy love relationships.
Sunday, November 28th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Feminine-Masculine Polarities“
Learn and practice how to develop, balance and harmonize healthy feminine and masculine polarities for the co-creation of sexual attraction and synergy in happy sustainable love relationships. Embodying these four polarities allows both partners to be simultaneously whole in themselves and part of the relationship.
The Integral Relationship model equates ascending and agency with masculine and descending and communion with feminine energies. Each has healthy and unhealthy expressions.
After the introduction to the four polarities and establishing that males and females can equally embody them, we will engage in several exercises with music and movement to experience their healthy and unhealthy expressions. This will enable you to realize your healing and growth potentials for the co-creation of healthy love relationships.
Saturday, December 4th, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Spiritual Development“
Learn about and experience five spiritual state-stages of spiritual development through a guided meditation. The first three states are likened to the waking (in which we are aware of physical objects), dreaming (in which we are identified with non-physical objects in our mind), and dreamless sleep (in which we fall into a state of timeless emptiness). Every human being, regardless of age, education, or cultural background, experiences these during the course of a normal day.
Two advanced state-stages that are called the witness (in which a conscious awareness of timeless emptiness arises) and non-duality (in which awareness and that which we are aware of unite) become available through grace or advanced practices.
Differentiate between the subject (or self/witness) and objects, and learn to understand the difference between healthy differentiation, disidentification and integration versus fusion, dissociation, repression, and splitting off.
Saturday, December 5th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Spiritual Development“
Learn about and experience five spiritual state-stages of spiritual development through a guided meditation. The first three states are likened to the waking (in which we are aware of physical objects), dreaming (in which we are identified with non-physical objects in our mind), and dreamless sleep (in which we fall into a state of timeless emptiness). Every human being, regardless of age, education, or cultural background, experiences these during the course of a normal day.
Two advanced state-stages that are called the witness (in which a conscious awareness of timeless emptiness arises) and non-duality (in which awareness and that which we are aware of unite) become available through grace or advanced practices.
Differentiate between the subject (or self/witness) and objects, and learn to understand the difference between healthy differentiation, disidentification and integration versus fusion, dissociation, repression, and splitting off.
Saturday, January 8th, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Sexual Development“
Learn about and experience five state-stages of sexual development, ranging from repressed to sacred/tantric. Understand why it is vital for thriving love relationships that couples are at least at level four, the “making love” stage. For them, sexuality is an expression of their deep heart connection and caring relationship. They make regular and ample time and to create a warm environment for their lovemaking and know how to get each other “in the mood”. Furthermore, they engage in ongoing learning about each other’s sexual needs and desires, push their boundaries in healthy ways, heal emotional wounds, transcend fears and shame around their sexuality, and keep advancing their love-life to keep it vital, and exciting.
In level five, sexuality becomes part of a deep spiritual practice and soul connection between a couple. They practice to become fully present with each other through shared meditation, prolonged eye gazing, breathing together into their seven chakras, chanting and praying together, giving and receiving tantric massages, making love in the lotus position, and moving kundalini energy up their spine.
Join us for an intimate partner meditation, gentle unconditional touch, and verbal exploration of the five state-stages of sexual development through questions and answers. This will allow you to identify your own and the level of your partner’s sexual expression and to realize your healing and growth potentials.
Sunday, January 9th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Sexual Development“
Learn about and experience five state-stages of sexual development, ranging from repressed to sacred/tantric. Understand why it is vital for thriving love relationships that couples are at least at level four, the “making love” stage. For them, sexuality is an expression of their deep heart connection and caring relationship. They make regular and ample time and to create a warm environment for their lovemaking and know how to get each other “in the mood”. Furthermore, they engage in ongoing learning about each other’s sexual needs and desires, push their boundaries in healthy ways, heal emotional wounds, transcend fears and shame around their sexuality, and keep advancing their love-life to keep it vital, and exciting.
In level five, sexuality becomes part of a deep spiritual practice and soul connection between a couple. They practice to become fully present with each other through shared meditation, prolonged eye gazing, breathing together into their seven chakras, chanting and praying together, giving and receiving tantric massages, making love in the lotus position, and moving kundalini energy up their spine.
Join us for an intimate partner meditation, gentle unconditional touch, and verbal exploration of the five state-stages of sexual development through questions and answers. This will allow you to identify your own and the level of your partner’s sexual expression and to realize your healing and growth potentials.
Saturday, January 15th, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Anima/Animus Complex Development“
Learn about and experience five stages of animus complex development in women and five stages of anima complex development in men and how they profoundly impact your love relationships. Take a deep dive into your early childhood memories through a practical exercise. Realize how your gender and relationship with your mother and father caused you to repress certain feminine and masculine qualities into your unconscious. See how you unconsciously project the shadow that was created onto the opposite sex. Heal and grow to overcome this complex to co-create a healthy sustainable Integral love relationship with an equal and opposite partner.
Sunday, January 16th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Anima/ Animus Complex Development“
Learn about and experience five stages of animus complex development in women and five stages of anima complex development in men and how they profoundly impact your love relationships. Take a deep dive into your early childhood memories through a practical exercise. Realize how your gender and relationship with your mother and father caused you to repress certain feminine and masculine qualities into your unconscious. See how you unconsciously project the shadow that was created onto the opposite sex. Heal and grow to overcome this complex to co-create a healthy sustainable Integral love relationship with an equal and opposite partner.
Saturday, January 22nd, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Love Languages“
Learn and practice how to improve your dates and love relationships by becoming aware of the five love languages. Identify which of the five is your and your partners primary and secondary expression and how to give and receive love and appreciation. A simple test that we will offer will reveal the answers. We will then form groups for each primary love language to learn about people’s favorite expressions.
If you are single, you may send the test to your date before you meet and gain valuable insights. It also makes for great conversations that go deeper than just talking about the weather or how your day was. Explore together if you would rather have a partner who shares your primary and secondary love language, which is advised for people at earlier stages of consciousness development, or if you’d rather be with someone who complements your love languages so that you can create synergy, expand your horizon, and spice up your relationship.
If you are a couple (or decide to become one) each of you may make a list with 30 or more things that make you feel loved and share it with your partner. You can then develop a habit of doing at least one thing from each other’s list every day. Once you have a better understanding of what makes your partner feel loved, you can become creative with your own ideas and surprise him or her.
The Love Languages are not only relevant for couples. Children, family members, friends, co-workers and associates all have a primary and secondary love language and you can deepen your connection by learning about their preferences and make them feel loved and cared for.
Sunday, January 23th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Love Languages”
Learn and practice how to improve your dates and love relationships by becoming aware of the five love languages. Identify which of the five is your and your partners primary and secondary expression and how to give and receive love and appreciation. A simple test that we will offer will reveal the answers. We will then form groups for each primary love language to learn about people’s favorite expressions.
If you are single, you may send the test to your date before you meet and gain valuable insights. It also makes for great conversations that go deeper than just talking about the weather or how your day was. Explore together if you would rather have a partner who shares your primary and secondary love language, which is advised for people at earlier stages of consciousness development, or if you’d rather be with someone who complements your love languages so that you can create synergy, expand your horizon, and spice up your relationship.
If you are a couple (or decide to become one) each of you may make a list with 30 or more things that make you feel loved and share it with your partner. You can then develop a habit of doing at least one thing from each other’s list every day. Once you have a better understanding of what makes your partner feel loved, you can become creative with your own ideas and surprise him or her.
The Love Languages are not only relevant for couples. Children, family members, friends, co-workers and associates all have a primary and secondary love language and you can deepen your connection by learning about their preferences and make them feel loved and cared for.
Saturday, January 29th, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Enneagram Types”
Learn and practice how to identify which of the nine Enneagram types you and your partner resonate most with. From there you can feel into your “wings” (the type next to yours that you identify with) and the types you move towards under stress and when you relax. Understand how your types combination positively and negatively impact your relationship by comparing them online. Put your type in the context of the unhealthy, average, and healthy levels of expression. Explore how to communicate your values and needs, and how to meet those of your partner. Become informed about one of three instinctual variants that underlie each type that are crucial for you to get along. Co-create a rewarding and thriving love relationship by creating synergy between your Enneagram types.
Sunday, January 30th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Enneagram Types”
Learn and practice how to identify which of the nine Enneagram types you and your partner resonate most with. From there you can feel into your “wings” (the type next to yours that you identify with) and the types you move towards under stress and when you relax. Understand how your types combination positively and negatively impact your relationship by comparing them online. Put your type in the context of the unhealthy, average, and healthy levels of expression. Explore how to communicate your values and needs, and how to meet those of your partner. Become informed about one of three instinctual variants that underlie each type that are crucial for you to get along. Co-create a rewarding and thriving love relationship by creating synergy between your Enneagram types.
Saturday, February 5th, 9:00 AM UTC – Online Practice Group “Attachment Styles”
Learn and practice through a test how you and others react differently under relationship stress. There are four general attachment styles that are formed in early childhood and impact our adult life. Secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious/avoidant (also called disorganized or ambivalent). Once one of the styles is established, it stays with us and shows up in the ways we form or avoid intimate relationships. Understanding attachment styles is essential, because of the insights they offer how partners may be emotionally limited in their capacity to relate. This understanding can greatly help us to realize in what areas we need to heal to become more securely attached in our love relationships.
Sunday, February 6th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Attachment Styles”
Learn and practice through a test how you and others react differently under relationship stress. There are four general attachment styles that are formed in early childhood and impact our adult life. Secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious/avoidant (also called disorganized or ambivalent). Once one of the styles is established, it stays with us and shows up in the ways we form or avoid intimate relationships. Understanding attachment styles is essential, because of the insights they offer how partners may be emotionally limited in their capacity to relate. This understanding can greatly help us to realize in what areas we need to heal to become more securely attached in our love relationships.
Saturday, February 12th, 9:00 AM UTC / Sunday, February 13th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “The Unconscious”
Learn and practice how to own your primary emotional fight, flight or freeze reactions to your partners reality instead of projecting them outward onto him or her (you are responsible for making me react/feel that way). Separate your observations from your emotions. Get in touch with the underlying vulnerable feelings that are protected by your primary emotional reactions. Take responsibility for your feelings by (re-)owning and disidentifying from them (I have feelings but I am not my feelings), instead of projecting, dissociating, repressing, denying, or splitting them off.
Once you feel more calm and more in tune with yourself, re-enter the communication with your partner in a way that is less protected and less attached to your unconscious defense mechanisms in an honest and vulnerable way.
The results of this “undefended love” approach of mutual sharing between couples are increasingly greater levels of inner peace and joy, and a deepening of intimacy, love, and connection with your partner if he or she is emotionally available, instead of fighting and separation. However, the “undefended love approach” does not mean to have weak, unhealthy, or porous boundaries, and to accept all kinds of abusive behavior, such as breaking agreements, taking advantage of you, or being intentionally physically or emotionally harmed by your partner. Instead, it allows us to heal our unconscious (including shadow) by creating a “coherent narrative” about our past.
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Saturday, February 19th, 9:00 AM UTC / Sunday, February 20th, 6:00 PM UTC – Online Practice Group “Healing our Shadow”
Learn and practice how to use relationship challenges for ongoing learning, healing, growing and awakening. When we have negative emotional reactions to our partners reality, we often blame him or her for hurting us, when in fact they just touch or trigger an old inner wound, shadow, false identity, or attachment that we have. Engage in a simple but profound five-step process to identify this false identity. Receive an affirmation and additional information about your true identity that you can use to heal your wound. This practice allows you to own your emotional reactions to your partner’s reality and develop self-compassion. It also allows you to no longer feel responsible for your partner’s emotional reactions to your reality, and to meet him or her with love, compassion and understanding. This allows for your mutual healing and growth and deepening intimacy.
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