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Why are there no evolved men around me?
First of all, no woman knows “all” men and may stand in her own way of attracting an “evolved” partner by thinking this way. Secondly, there are multiple developmental lines or intelligences that humans can evolve in, such as consciousness, cognitive,...

Integral sexuality in the four dimensions of our being
Integral sexuality includes practices in the singular "upper left" interior (spiritual practice, shadow, and trauma work), and "upper right" exterior (physical exercise, nutrition, rest, strengthening PC muscle, hormonal balance, etc.), and plural "lower left"...

The journey towards Integral Relationships
73% of Americans believe in soulmates. Most of them envision everlasting love, romance, sexual attraction, and happiness, and to live happily ever after once they fall in love–without having to do any ongoing work in their relationship. However, this is a magical...

Move from Transactional to Transcendental Love Relationships
There are three types of purposes that result in different forms of love relationships: 1. Our Biological Purpose that leads to Transactional Love.2. Our Transformational Purpose that leads to Transformational Love.3. Our Transcendental Purpose that leads to...

Compatibility Matrix
Locating Your Partner and Yourself on the Compatibility Matrix (From Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men page 153 - 162) Generally speaking, we can say that individuals who are fully actualized at their level of consciousness are most compatible with partners who...

Need-Based communication
We often hear that good communication is the most important thing to make relationships work. While this is essentially true, it is often not understood that people who are at different levels of consciousness development cannot solve their relationship conflicts...

Why is it so difficult for Integral people to find/attract their soulmate?
73% of Americans believe in soulmates. Most of them envision everlasting love, romance, sexual attraction, and happiness, and to live happily ever after once they fall in love–without having to do any ongoing work in their relationship. However, this is a magical...

Our social responsibility to be in healthy love relationships
In the past 15 years, I have been arguing that if we want to create a sane, loving, peaceful, and sustainable world, we need to first learn how to co-create a peaceful and sustainable love relationship with one person, and then expand from there. It escapes me why an...

Where are all the integral men?
It is an interesting phenomenon that men by any measure (life expectancy, physical health, job security, financial income, social status, sexual satisfaction, emotional stability, substance abuse, suicide rate, etc.) benefit more from being in love relationships than...

Purpose and Increasing Complexity of Love Relationships
The Integral Relationship Model shows us that love relationships are co-create in four dimensions between partners: Their interior individual "I" mind/feelings and "We" collective cultural conditioning, and their exterior "It" individual body/behavior and (Its)...

What is an Integral Relationship?
In a dialog with Allan Combs, Ken Wilber gave four definitions for Integral: 1. To be Integrally informed. 2. A horizontal integration of the four quadrants at a particular level of consciousness. 3. The highest levels of development possible. 4. The integration of...

Four Secrets to great romance, passionate sex, and everlasting love!
Of course I am kidding about "Secrets". There are no secrets! After reading over 200 relationship books, participating in countless workshops and trainings, dating for several years (after being married twice for a total of 21 years, with four daughters), and writing...

How the Wilber-Combs Matrix improves love relationships
The relationship dynamic that develops between partners beyond the fulfillment of the individuals' Primary Fantasy is determined by the developmental potentials that all adults possess. To better grasp how these multiple dimensions interconnect and affect the quality...
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Monogamy vs. non-monogamy survey results and my process to monogamy out of choice
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Value #4: We learn, heal, grow and awaken to love unconditionally
#4 of 12 Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries: We use our relationship for ongoing mutual learning, healing, growing, and awakening towards the capacity to love unconditionally. Learning about the world, yourself and your partner by staying curious,...

How can I express myself better to create healthy relationships?
My first suggestion is to begin the conversation by being curious about what others think and feel, and to actively listen without judging, projecting, and forming answers in our head. Most people are more open to hear you when they first feel heard and understood by...

Value 3: We transcend our primary fantasy and base our relationship in Being values
With transcend I mean to go beyond, while reasonably including. With primary fantasy, a term I first read in Warren Farrell's book Why Men Are the Way They Are, I mean the biological hardwiring of heterosexual males to desire young(er) sexy females with smooth skin,...
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Value 1: We choose to love instead of something that happens to us or that we attract.
Value #1 of 12 Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries: We choose to love instead of something that happens to us or that we attract. A few weeks after publishing Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men in 2010, I received a flyer with "10 Core Values for...

Let’s discuss and refine the 12 Core Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries
After publishing Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men, I heard Evolutionary Enlightenment Guru Andrew Cohen and Beyond Awakening teacher Terry Patten speak live. Until then, I felt caught in a state of presence, surrender, acceptance, and non-resistance (generally...

Value 2: Love relationships as an indicator of our psychological health and spiritual realization
#2 of 12 Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries: "We see the depth of our heart and soul connection as well as the level of humility and devotion to our relationship as an indicator of our psychological health and spiritual realization." With heart connection...

4 reasons why men should be integrally informed about love relationships (and women should choose these men)!
1. It takes two people to co-create a love relationship, but only one person to end it. 2. Men (statistically) suffer more after breakups and divorces than women*. 3. Men generally benefit more from being in a committed love relationship/marriage than women do**, but...

Integral Relationship Evolutionaries
In an Integral Evolutionary Relationship, both partners are at an Integral or higher level of consciousness and share (1) what they love to do/feel called to do, (2) what they do well, (3) what the world needs, and (4) what the world will pay for--their Evolutionary...

Why would a person lie?
Because he/she does not feel safe with you or does not trust you to be able to hear his or her truth without rejecting, judging, or punishing. People may also lie to themselves and others out of shame, fear, or guilt. Telling the truth can be a very vulnerable and...

What motivates monogamy and non-monogamy at "Integral" and higher stages?
After my friend Bill McCart took a look at The 12 Core Values for Integral Relationship Evolutionaries he pointed out that the last one, "We engage in sacred/tantric sexuality and practice monogamy out of choice instead of fear" implies that all people at an Integral...

How can I attain spiritual awakening and personal maturity individually and in relationship?
The first step is to realize that all spiritual and personal development unfolds through multiple states and stages. Second, it is helpful to learn what these state-stages are. Third, it is important to understand the difference between waking up and growing up, and...

Biological Purpose and Transactional Love
I am very honored that world-renowned artists Alex and Allyson Grey invited me to contribute an article about the Dialectic of Love to their COSM Journal of Visionary Culture #10 about LOVE. You can order your copy...

How can I live my purpose and find my soulmate?
The first step is to realize that you have a Biological Purpose that you share with all other living creatures. It determines who you are physically attracted to and compatible with in your lifestyle choices. The second step is to get clarity about your psychological...

How can I start attracting miracles instead of negativity into my relationships?
Why do I attract people with negative energy and mentally sick people in my relationships in recent years? How can I attract the right partner for a soulmate relationship? Why have I attracted what I've attracted so far in my life?First of all, the fact that we were...

Do spiritually evolved people lose sexual desire?
The sex hormones testosterone, estrogen and dopamine, and the associated neurotransmitters that act upon the nucleus accumbens, regulate libido in humans. These chemicals are either naturally released so that we experience lust and desire to make babies, or heightened...

I want to understand women’s souls more deeply.
Carol Gilligan wrote in her famous book “In a Different Voice” that gave me sleepless nights: “Men try to understand others by understanding themselves; women try to understand themselves by understanding others.” If this resonates with you as it did with me, then you...
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Nobody loves me. What is wrong with me?
You are not alone. Singles who yearn for a partner and couples who experience relationship stress often feel that nobody loves them, or that they are not lovable and that there is something wrong with them; and that includes me at times. Of course, this is not true....

How can I express myself effectively to the opposite sex?
While there may be minor gender differences that I list below, effective communication with the same or opposite sex depends largely on the level of consciousness development, the perspective, and the feminine or masculine energy of the person you want to talk to (his...

How do I relate in the we-space without losing connection to myself?
By focusing on what is alive and co-created between you and your partner in all dimensions of your being at the level of your seven chakras. The first step is that you and your partner become fully aware of your surroundings, body sensations, thoughts, feelings, and...

Why does my partner reject me when I ask for something, even though I am so giving?
You are probably very self-reliant and take responsibility for every single issue that appears in your life, so you don’t really need anyone. When it comes to your own feelings, needs, and desires, you barely pay attention to them and rarely express them. Your...

What needs of a man are OK/healthy to expect a woman/partner to meet?
I think one of Immanuel Kant's categorical imperatives; “so act as to treat humanity, whether in your own person or in another, always as an end, and never as only a means” applies to your question. Because our needs and wants, and the ability or willingness of our...

How can I tell true and permanent love?
Love and relationships between humans are always conditional, because, unlike animals like penguins, we are self-conscious and have developing minds with changing needs and desires. True and permanent, or unconditional love, only exists as a potential when we become...

Is it really important to find my life purpose?
It may not be important to you personally, but it is important for the rest of us. Like all living beings, you already live the essential parts of your purpose; to survive, to join groups, and to seek the best possible quality of life or happiness. Finding and living...

How to express myself and communicate best without Ego to build healthy relationships.
By realizing that (1) everybody is right from their own perspective and level of development (view), (2) by being curious about their view, and (3) by accepting that not everybody can understand or relate to your view. With perspective I mean can you and the person...

Why am I faced with conflicts in my relationship even though I am more understanding?
This is a common problem for people who are more evolved/understanding than their partner. We can often understand the needs, values and worldviews of our partner, but he or she can not see and accept ours. This is because the Ego, our self identity and separate sense...

What to look for in my soulmate?
Your soul is like the seed of a plant. It holds your full human potential, just like an acorn holds the potential to grow into an oak tree. Soulmates uniquely see each other's full human potentials and complement and challenge each other to realize it. These...

How can I align myself better with my feminine nature?
Let me first remind you that feminine and masculine polarities can be equally embodied by males and females. Each of them has healthy and unhealthy expressions. Even though there may be certain genetic predispositions for men and women to be either more masculine or...

What are the underlying beliefs I hold that make me feel undeserving of happiness and joy?
The first false belief that you may hold is to think that happiness and joy will come from the outside. This may be true for short-term pleasures, but they often either create long-term suffering and are difficult to control. A mindful meditation practice will allow...

How to prevent my man from being more powerful in the relationship?
Most women are attracted to men with power and wealth. I never heard a woman say I want a partner who is weak, poor, and needy. This poses a paradox for women and men, as most powerful men eventually also want to have power over their partner. This is especially true...

How can I build my future?
As John Lennon said and we all experience right now, “life is happening while we make other plans.” So in that sense, we cannot build our future. The things that had the biggest impact on my life, such as meeting my wife and mother of my three children, finding a...

How do I attract miracles into my life?
By realizing that being alive in itself is a miracle and by opening up to all the possibilities and invitations that you are presented with from moment to moment. Unfortunately, the Ego, our separate and false sense of self, sees life as a problem, as lacking, as...

How can I have a sense of fulfillment?
This is a great question, especially in these times of uncertainty and transformation. Many studies show that humans who live their purpose and are in happy love relationships are most healthy and fulfilled. There are three broad layers of purpose that also define who...

What is the difference between need and neediness?
We all have needs. Some have been identified as universal being-needs, such as sustenance, safety, affection, understanding, trust, or freedom. Others are more individual, for example acceptance, beauty, empathy, contribution, or companionship. I can send you a list...